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6 Tips to Avoid Anger at Home 避免在家中发怒的六条建议  

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6 Tips to Avoid Anger at Home

避免在家中发怒的六条建议

DIY英语 Mike老迈 编辑整理】

Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s a natural part of life. The good news is that you can learn to manage that anger and be in control, so you can use anger effectively and safely at home.

When your anger only lasts a short time, you’ll feel more in control and less stressed. As your stress management improves, your success is soon to follow.

Being joyful, instead of angry, is healthier for you and it’s better for the people around you. When you find that you’re feeling rather aggravated, there are things you can do to keep from getting frustrated and saying or doing something you’ll regret later. However, with that said, anger is okay to express when it’s appropriate to do so. The key is to be able to identify when anger is justified and when it’s unnecessary.

Work on Tempering Your Anger with Peace

Being peaceful can be hard work at first, but the hard work is worth it. Anger may feel like the natural response to stress, simply because you’ve been reacting that way for so long. The people who share your home may expect you to get angry, too, and they may respond to situations in ways that seem to trigger your frustrated responses.

Changing the way you do things is a process that takes some time. You may feel like giving up, but continue to work at cultivating a peaceful mindset. Challenges will always be a part of your life, but you can deal with them in an effective and productive manner when you approach them from a position of peace and control.

There are several ways to avoid anger at home. Practice these ideas or come up with your own. The important thing to remember is that learning to remain peaceful is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and enjoy the process as you begin to adopt new patterns of thinking and behavior that support your family’s well-being.

Try these strategies when you start to get angry:

Breathe deeply and slowly until you calm down before you say or do anything at all.

Think about the things you love about a person, instead of what makes you angry.

Talk things over with someone, instead of telling them what they will and must do.

Be sensitive to another person’s fears, goals, desires, and important differences.

Walk away for a while before you have a conversation with someone who upset you.

Be clear about what’s expected of everyone, including you, to lessen conflict.

Anger is a Roadblock to your Success as a Family

In some families, the anger people feel leads to yelling, unfruitful arguing, and an erosion of the relationships within that family. You can make a better choice. Instead of harsh words, choose to calm down and focus on solutions that take everyone’s needs into account.

Include your family in decision-making. Ensure that everyone’s input is taken into account when deciding on the best course of action to take. Consider the feelings of everyone in your family and seek to meet each other’s needs as well as your own. When you do, your family will be happier and closer, and you’ll experience less anger and more peace in your home!

 

 

避免在家中发怒的六条建议


    每个人都有生气的时候,这是日常生活的一部分。如果你能学会控制自己的情绪的确是个好事情。因此,你在家中可以有效地、安全地发泄你的怒气。

    当你的怒气仅仅持续很短的时间,你会感到一切都在你的掌控之中,并放松下来。当你缓解压力的能力提高,你离成功便不远了。

    用快乐代替生气,会使你和你周围的人更加健康。当你恼怒的时候,在心情低落的状态下,会做出一些令你后悔的事情。虽然这样说,如果使用得当,发怒是一种很好的发泄方式。问题的关键是你是否能辨别什么时候发怒是恰当的,什么时候是没有必要的。

    为了使你的怒气平息,改一改你的脾气吧。

    保持心情平静是你做的第一项困难的工作,但这样的努力是值得的。长久以来,你一直这种反应,发怒成了你面对压力的一种回应。和你痛处一室的人同样可以预料到你会发怒。他们明白你是在那种情境中对使你情绪消沉的一种反应。

    改变你处理事情的习惯是一个循序渐进的过程。有时会想放弃,但是培养平静的心态需要坚持。挑战会成为你生活的一部分,但是当你使用正确的、卓有成效的方法,你会慢慢接近将要达成的目标,即平静和自制。

    有很多方法避免在家中发怒。实践这些方法,并且自我反省,重要的是要记住学习保持心态平和是一个循序渐进的过程。对自己要有耐心,并且对于开始采用的新的思考及行为方式感到欣喜,因为那会是你的家庭和睦。

    当你生气的时候,使用下面这些对策:

    在你要说要做任何事之前,慢慢地深呼吸,直到你平静下来。

    想这个人好的方面,而不是令你生气的方面。

    用商量的口气而不是命令的口气与某人谈论事情。

    善于感知他人的忧虑、目标、需求和其他明显的不同平常的情形。

    在与和你意见相左的人交谈前,到外面散一会步。

    弄清楚你自己和其他人可能会有怎样的反应,减少争执。

    生气对于家庭和睦是一种阻碍。

    一些家庭生气的人会吼叫,会毫无意义地争论,而那会对家庭关系造成伤害。你有更好的选择,不要用过激的言辞,取而代之以平静的心态照顾到每个人的想法而寻求解决的办法。

    包括你的家庭做决定的时候,在和平的氛围中每个人的想法最终会达成一致。考虑家庭成员每个人的想法,把他们的需求当成你自己的需求,当你做到这些,你的家庭会变得快乐,团结。并且,你会不再经常生气,家庭和睦!

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